It has been said that, "the only thing that is constant in life is change." Change is and can be a difficult thing.
There is security in the routine and "sameness" of the day-to-day grind. Babies especially find comfort in routine. Adults, some more than others, find security in the routine. It is when routines are altered and changes come that character is built.
Character is who we are in the dark. What we do, when no one else is looking. When changes occur, it is our reaction to them that will make us or break us. Did you know that even "good change" is considered stress? It is true. You may have just had a wonderful change in your life such as the birth of a baby or a wedding, but your body's reaction to such an event can be a stress reaction. Change is constant, so is the opportunity for growth.
Even in change, there is a path to peace. Change, good or bad, can cause our minds to worry. It has been said there are no troubles that distress the mind and wear upon the nerves as do borrowed troubles. A little ditty speaks volumes: "Worry is an old man with bended head, carrying a load of feathers which he thinks is lead." (unknown)
At this time, many are watching their children walk across the stage and receive diplomas. Change, though anticipated, occurs for the graduate as well as the parent. Though a parent's job is far from being complete, the change from being under the same roof to launching the young adult, is often a difficult one.
Many walk down the aisle during the month of June. The change of marriage is a welcome one to many, but change is sure to happen as two individuals merge their lives as one. It is a joyous time, but also a time of adjustment for the young and old alike.
As stated before, the only thing that is constant in life is change, but there is one big exception. God is our true constant and does not change; therefore, we can have peace in the midst of change whether that change is life altering, small or just the normal flow of life.
Billy Graham said, "Many of our troubles are caused by self-centeredness. The human mind is not meant to be limited to such a narrow scope. It is to be free to soar, to dream, to hope and to trust. When our eyes are turned inward instead of upward, we suffer from spiritual nearsightedness.
"Anticipation of trouble makes trifles appear unduly large, and the troubles that never come make up an imagined burden that will crush the spirit. They are haunting specters, as insubstantial as a bad dream, and we spend the strength that should be expended in constructive work and services in fighting problems that do not exist."
I tore a page out of "Our Daily Bread" in 1986 and taped it to the inside of my Bible. You see, that was the day my young husband died, and the theme for the day was change and worry. I was nursing my baby the morning after his death and all of the sudden it hit me: "How am I going to pay for her college?" My daughter was 9 months old and I was worried about her college.
That devotion spoke volumes and taught a lesson I will never forget: It was titled, "One Tick at a Time." It was the story of a little clock that was so worried about all the ticks it would have to tick, that it had a nervous breakdown. The moral of the story was: One tick at a time or one day at a time. When change happens, and it does for us all, we have to remember to take one tick/day at a time. I always tell my grieving clients, that one day is too much for us who are grieving; rather, we need to take one moment at a time.
Instead of borrowing trouble, we should listen to the Lord in times of good change or bad: "Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid." John 14:27 And, a verse my children learned as toddlers is still one of my favorites: "I will both lay me down in peace, and sleep; for thou, Lord, only makest me dwell in safety." Psalm 4:8
(Kimberly Morgan, MA, is a wife and homeschool mom in Elkins. She also is a counselor and chaplain at Cornerstone Christian Counseling at 300 Railroad Ave. in Elkins. Contact her at 304-637-1109.)