Dear Annie: I read the letter from "Saddened," whose wife has cut off sex. I want to knock some sense into people like you. Life has different stages. We've done the sex thing. Why should women look for help? Where are the medications that reduce libido in males? Why doesn't he get counseling and learn to enjoy life without sex? A complete absence of desire can be liberating. There is so much more room in the brain for other things. - J.P.